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February 18, 2010

Are you a Divorced Dad? Dating for Single Dads is Easy!

Are you a divorced dad? So what? As long as dating for single dads is easy! Can a divorced Dad be a great father? Perhaps a divorced guy should also ask: “Why not?” Just because you’re not divorced, it does not mean that you are not a great father. It’s really such a pity that our society considers someone as a dead beat parent just because he’s divorced. There are a lot of wonderful divorced fathers out there and you can learn a lot from them.

Realizing the Situation… You have got to understand that children suffer greatly from having only one parent. It could be because they had angry parents, or because of separation anxiety or any number of things: it’s tough for children whose parents are divorced, getting divorced, or who are single.

Keeping up appearances for the children need sacrifice. Usually, both mother and father have to be able to set aside their differences long enough to inspect the damage that they have both done to their children. However, more often than not, parents get so engrossed with their emotional pain that they fail to notice that their children suffer even more than they do.

If you are a single parent this is not easy. Dating for dads and dating for mothers is the only answer – don’t rush into things, but children need two parents and when you’re ready, you should get, and will find, another partner.

Studies show that when two parents make a conscious effort to remain close to each other, then they have more successful and stable children. What more do you need to know? Children need two parents. Never think that dating for single dads is out of the question. In fact, it is important for the kids. You know that it is, don’t you?

Study: To make the importance of a father being close to his children more obvious, the State University of Arizona conducted a study of college students whose parents were divorced. The researchers observed personality, emotional and mental maturity, health, and even interest in school and success. The researchers found evidence that supports the idea that whichever parent had primary custody, it is certain that children need access to adults of both sexes. Widow(er)s need to get back into society for the sake of their children and the,selves.

Findings: The findings are very interesting. Statistics clearly shows that children whose parents are divorced have healthier and more mature relationships than their parents and make a conscious effort of keeping the essence of family intact.

61% of the children involved in the study asserted that their mum or whoever had primary custodianship moved them at least an hour’s drive away from the other parent. One of the concerns expressed by the students was getting caught in the crossfire. Also, when they stayed with one parent, future financial help (like for school or college) lessened. For example, if they stayed with Dad, Mum gave less when college came, and vice versa. So, the fact is that the 1 hour’s distance already had a negative effect on the children.

Emotional upheaval cannot be avoided, but a keener inspection of the kids showed that those whose parents kept them close have a healthier disposition emotionally and mentally.

Results: so, in a nut-shell, the case study demonstrates that divorce does affect the kids. The way the parents treat each other and the distance they live apart does have a very significant impact that could tip the scales as to whether a child succeeds or not. It is difficult to make friends with an ex-wife after all that has transpired, but it will be even more difficult for you as a divorced or separated Dad, when you see your children suffer from the consequences of your decisions.

As a separated Dad, it is your responsibility, to yourself and your children to make the supreme sacrifice of making the first step of keeping close.

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